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No it's actually harder to understand if you take race out of it since it's exactly the only reason why she won't date that other intern. This argument is also
by swang 11y ago
No it's actually harder to understand if you take race out of it since it's exactly the only reason why she won't date that other intern. This argument is also missing the data point on whether she dates other Asian men with features similar to Chinese men so you believing it's just "attraction characteristics" is simplifying the argument as though race is not some incredible influence for our attraction of others. And where do you think her perception of her own race as "being ugly" comes from?
I honestly don't know if you're white or not, but I will go with the high probability guess that you are white. Mainly because no person of color would ever say what you've just said. So yeah, easy for someone who doesn't have to deal with their skin tone to say what you've said.
The entire culture of America, and most European countries is heavily biased against Asian men. It is sad that her only negative against him is that he's Chinese. Asian men are still having to deal with the fallout of William Hung and every other caricature of Asian males that _still_ show up on network TV because people are cool with making fun of the nerdy Asian guy. So don't tell other people that we should ignore race when the society and culture tells us otherwise.
Also it's fucking offense to relate dating "non-white" people as a flavor preference.
- mc32 11y agoPeople in other continents have always had preferences of one type or another, whether it was strength, height, color, etc. Who cares why people have preferences. While she, the person in the comments, does not date chinese (or specifically thinks local Han are ugly), there are also people who will only date people of their own race. There are also people who only date Africans, or any other particular ethnicity for any variety of reasons. It's not a problem. You see a problem where there is none. I hope you realize you're not far from advocating people should only date within their ethnicity and intermixing is bad. Clarified dating oreference
- swang 11y agoHow could you possibly infer that I advocate people should only date within their own race? She didn't even say she only dated white people, she said she didn't date Chinese because she is totally put off by them. What I find about your comments is that you are totally trying to erase race out of the issue then saying it is fine to date only _one_ race. I'm confused by that. And personally, you only want to date people with <X> trait, that's fine. No one should stop you from doing that. You don't want to date <Y> because <something stupid>, that's also fine. But don't expect not to get called on bullshit like that.
- mc32 11y agoOk, so I think we basically agree in principle. People can like or dislike people for any reason, when it comes to personal attraction. The reasons can be superficial, or otherwise, but in the end it doesn't matter and it's really no one's business --with perhaps the exception of parents while their progeny are underage, but even then it's questionable. So you think her abhorrence is stupid, fine, we agree she has the right to think her unchoice are ugly and undesirable. I'm sure there are just as many Han women who think whites, blacks, browns, etc., are disgusting, for whatever reason, who cares. They can observe any preference they want.