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We're not discussing courtesy. I can excuse me and hello, nice to meet you all day long without a second thought. But I'm not going to spend my time trying to
by mreiland 11y ago
We're not discussing courtesy.
I can excuse me and hello, nice to meet you all day long without a second thought. But I'm not going to spend my time trying to reconcile with someone who is being unfair to something I said when I could instead be using that time to reconcile with someone who is instead simply misunderstanding me.
there is an idea known as irreconcilable differences, that idea applies here.
- rmxt 11y agoIt's called "courtesy" on the subway, but the analogous traits are "empathy" and "earnestness" in general discourse. My point was less about the specific trait and more that often times we can encourage/evoke the traits we want to see in others by first developing and portraying them in ourselves. I guess I am looking at the grey area between someone being unfair to you and someone who is misunderstanding you. I think that trying to empathize and understand the "other" often results in finding out that someone isn't actually being "unfair" to us, but rather, is actually "misunderstanding" us. That working point can give way to deeper understanding in a conversation/venture that might have otherwise been discarded because of "irreconcilable differences."
- mreiland 11y agono, this is courtesy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RR5rIv4Qros https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RR5rIv4Qros If you're not willing to empathize enough to do this for another human being, then you're a terrible person who needs to work to be better.