I have experienced the same problems during my life. I found that even though I intellectual understood the process vs. event based life I could not quite let

I have experienced the same problems during my life. I found that even though I intellectual understood the process vs. event based life I could not quite let go of celebrating events and being grumpy about past unfair events. Then I read Simon Sineks "Start with why" and finally figured out my why (happiness) and integrated it into my way of making decisions. Since then I have really found that my self worth has grown and become more balanced - because the decisions I make is right for me and since the ring true to my why I do not care (as much) what others think.