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Facts don't work on some people because their ego doesn't let them to admit they were wrong. It shakes your belief systems, specially if you built your charact

by tdkl 12y ago

Facts don't work on some people because their ego doesn't let them to admit they were wrong. It shakes your belief systems, specially if you built your character around some facts like these and they stuck with you for the better part of your life. You have to consider that core beliefs like this influenced many decisions in life. People actually thinking about that they were perhaps wrong is more painful that blindly refusing to accept the fact. *disclaimer : I'm not a professional, but am interested in human psychology from a self growth perspective.

Nursie 12y ago
You're quite right, and I know it's hard for me, in the depths of an argument, to admit the other person has the right of things when they have presented a piece of data that should change my opinion. Ego gets wound up in there, amongst other things. One should be genuinely delighted when new information comes along and changes your understanding of the world. It rarely works out that easily though.
enraged_camel 12y ago
>>Facts don't work on some people because their ego doesn't let them to admit they were wrong. It's not about ego. It's about emotions. In this case, she is fearful of something that she doesn't understand, and has made a decision ("marijuana is bad!") based on that fear. Logic is not going to overcome that fear. She has to start associating marijuana with positive feelings first before she opens up to changing her mind. This isn't gender-specific either. Most people, whether they are men or women, operate like this: they feel an emotion, associate it with the thing/person that caused that emotion, and then make decisions based on that emotion. They use logic only for post-hoc justification.
- tdkl 12y ago
  > It's not about ego. It's about emotions. Correct, used a wrong term but actually thought about emotions. How a human learns to deal with his emotions sets a blueprint for life.

by tdkl 12y ago

Nursie 12y ago

You're quite right, and I know it's hard for me, in the depths of an argument, to admit the other person has the right of things when they have presented a piece of data that should change my opinion. Ego gets wound up in there, amongst other things. One should be genuinely delighted when new information comes along and changes your understanding of the world. It rarely works out that easily though.

enraged_camel 12y ago

>>Facts don't work on some people because their ego doesn't let them to admit they were wrong. It's not about ego. It's about emotions. In this case, she is fearful of something that she doesn't understand, and has made a decision ("marijuana is bad!") based on that fear. Logic is not going to overcome that fear. She has to start associating marijuana with positive feelings first before she opens up to changing her mind. This isn't gender-specific either. Most people, whether they are men or women, operate like this: they feel an emotion, associate it with the thing/person that caused that emotion, and then make decisions based on that emotion. They use logic only for post-hoc justification.

tdkl 12y ago
> It's not about ego. It's about emotions. Correct, used a wrong term but actually thought about emotions. How a human learns to deal with his emotions sets a blueprint for life.