"Rude" things are 100% superficial, pretty much by definition of rude. (As soon as something becomes an issue in terms of actual consequences, we stop using the

"Rude" things are 100% superficial, pretty much by definition of rude. (As soon as something becomes an issue in terms of actual consequences, we stop using the word "rude" and starting saying other things: unacceptable, not right, fucked up)