I am not confusing the two the parent said "but I blame the people who gave the money, not the ones who asked for it." My response was that there is an incestu

I am not confusing the two the parent said "but I blame the people who gave the money, not the ones who asked for it." My response was that there is an incestuous relationship between the two, so you cannot delineate between who to blame, it is the same people, the asking and the giving where one in the same.