I don't think that it's easy to explain; there almost aren't words for it. Whenever I discuss this in person I tend to ramble and hope enough meaning gets acros

I don't think that it's easy to explain; there almost aren't words for it. Whenever I discuss this in person I tend to ramble and hope enough meaning gets across. In the US do you have the notion of 'poshness'? For example, making fun of someone who speaks a certain way, or turns their nose up at e.g. fast food? That's a massive thing. We live in tribes... pronouncing words correctly is a thing that results in ostracization here. It pains me to say this, but here we are: I am wealthier than my parents and hometown friends because at some point I realised what was going on, and took an active decision to take a different path. I had to internalize the notion that I am better than them. I will work harder and smarter and I will beat them. Do you see that? I had to beat them in order to win. I have to compete against my fellow human beings. I have to reject their customs and use the customs that winners use. Do you get that? That it's not just 'do A B C'? That the actions I took and continue to take have the effect of further seperating me from my friends and family? Every time I pronounce an 'a' or an 'h' in their presence it's effectively me grandstanding the fact that I'm not 'one of them' now. Reading this post makes me seem like a colossal dick, right? But it's just a written description of social 'mobility'. I am not better or more deserving than them. I just play a game. A game of emulation. I was born with talents, arbitrarily, and somehow that means I win and they lose. Meh. I think you just have to live it.