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I foresee a whole lot of people making themselves look awkward and stilted if they try to integrate the techniques from the book. People naturally adopt confid
by philk 17y ago
I foresee a whole lot of people making themselves look awkward and stilted if they try to integrate the techniques from the book.
People naturally adopt confident, outgoing, friendly body language when they're feeling confident, outgoing and friendly.
Trying to work it in reverse is a bit like trying to ride a bike while thinking of all the details of cycling - it looks a bit naff and you're likely to crash.
If people really want to adopt confident body language they'd be better off doing things to make them feel more confident - say getting in shape physically or skydiving.
- klipt 17y agoI'd say it's still useful to know what confident, outgoing and friendly body language looks like, so you can recognize it in others and yourself. For one thing, it might help you deduce what kinds of actions make people more confident, outgoing and friendly, so you can try doing those things yourself. For another, knowing whether somebody else is confident or not can be important in deciding how to relate to them (you don't want to overwhelm an unconfident person). It's definitely more of a sensory ('input') skill than an active ('output') skill though.