No, I'm saying look beyond the "indicators" and "peer groups", and look at the individual person. I personally would have far more respect for someone who buck

No, I'm saying look beyond the "indicators" and "peer groups", and look at the individual person. I personally would have far more respect for someone who bucked the odds and fought for everything she had than for someone who is "high achieving" but got there relatively easily on a path well paved (if not paved with gold). I also find that people who made it through a hard early life tend to be less spoiled and selfish, to be more sympathetic to the plights of others, and to have a greater capacity for love and trust, and to know what's really important in life.