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> "So, if it doesn't exist, how is it making you bleed?" > (My American friends told me that I did not handle that well. My Italian friends told me that I hand
by chimeracoder 12y ago
> "So, if it doesn't exist, how is it making you bleed?"
> (My American friends told me that I did not handle that well. My Italian friends told me that I handled that masterfully.)
That's a great story, and thank you for sharing it. Though at the risk of getting downvoted, I think I know why your [American] friends were telling you that you didn't handle it well.
Aside from the lawsuit potential (which is real), it doesn't really advance the situation in a way that helps anybody - either you or him. Clearly he feels intimidated by you, and that's why he's mentally unwilling to acknowledge you and/or your project. But after you assaulting him[0], he's not going to suddenly change his mind and acknowledge that you beat him. Rather, he's going to double-down, and now have even more reason to believe that you're unstable/immature/unprofessional, or whatever he needs in order to convince himself that you're not worth paying attention to.
As for you, it makes you feel better, but it also doesn't really get you what you ultimately want (him admitting that he was wrong). You win the battle, but the "war" goes on, with both sides even more emotionally entrenched in their existing positions.
[0] yes, this would qualify as assault
- magicalist 12y agoYeah, that guy sounds like an asshole, but the GP sounds like an unstable violent person. Bringing it up now to apparently brag about the situation doesn't help but reinforce that... You just beat the crap out of his robot. I don't see how trying to stab him with solder spikes is handling anything "masterfully".
- spiritplumber 12y agoI did not beat the crap out of his robot, we both demoed the same thing (Android-brained tank bot) and mine worked properly, while his didn't. He became angry, and insulted me and my work. I am not a violent person by Mediterranean standards - maybe by Anglosaxon standards. The last time I started a fight, I was nine years old. I got such a thrashing by my old man that I never did again. But he always said, hit second, hit last.
- magicalist 12y ago> I did not beat the crap out of his robot, we both demoed the same thing (Android-brained tank bot) and mine worked properly, while his didn't. Sorry, I meant in terms of the competition, not physically.
- mreiland 12y agoThe thing about passive aggressive pricks is that they're not typically violent. That's WHY they're passive aggressive pricks.
- spiritplumber 12y agoI'm not bragging about the situation - I'm relating a story relevant to the article. You can draw your own conclusion. Perhaps if I had been a more gracious winner, we could've done business together, as it stands we didn't. However, he was an extremely sore loser. What would you have done?
- dsp1234 12y agoHowever, he was an extremely sore loser. Physically hurting someone because they hurt your fee-fees makes you an "extremely sore loser" too, just in a different way.
- spiritplumber 12y agoI didn't hurt this guy because he offended me, I hurt him because he denied reality. Someone who can look at something and say "This does not exist, because I will it not so" is clearly delusional and needs a jolt of physical sensation to get back to reality. That said, I tend to take things extremely literally when agitated. He might have meant "You're unimportant, this might as well not exist".