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It may be that, while you're telling women to drop this aggressive narrative and play nice, they may reply by telling you that being nice hasn't worked out so w
by Frondo 12y ago
It may be that, while you're telling women to drop this aggressive narrative and play nice, they may reply by telling you that being nice hasn't worked out so well so far, so it's time to try a different approach.
- rabbyte 12y agoYou're misunderstanding me if you think I'm asking women to play nice.
- Frondo 12y agoSee, what it sounds like is, you're calling it a narrative when, for women in tech, it's reality. Narratives can, of course, be changed pretty easily--"let's tell a new story"--while reality is a great deal more resistant. Conflating the two does a disservice to the people for whom it's reality, by suggesting that all they need to do is tell a new story.
- rabbyte 12y agoJust because it's a narrative doesn't mean it's not also a reality. Story telling is how we make sense of collective societal changes. The presence of a narrative simply means society is trying to work out the problem. Conflating reality and narratives would be to believe that men and women are actually fighting when the reality is there are more than two genders with allies on all sides.