>when a colleague has to spend time thinking about whether or not the comments you've failed to police yourself are actually threatening, creepy, or indicative

>when a colleague has to spend time thinking about whether or not the comments you've failed to police yourself are actually threatening, creepy, or indicative of other much more harmful behaviors you may be capable of If they have to spend time thinking about whether or not it was actually threatening or creepy they might be digging a little too deep to find those meanings.