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I would commend your friend's wife for choosing the right priorities. Family is the most important thing in the world. 7 months is a really short time for mater

by fsloth 12y ago

I would commend your friend's wife for choosing the right priorities. Family is the most important thing in the world. 7 months is a really short time for maternity leave. How can someone "exploit maternity"? Maternity is not the same thing as being sick. Being sick is a transient personal thing while parenthood is a process that lasts through a lifetime. People need sleep and eating. People are not machines. The fact that people are not required to work 24 hours a day recognizes this. People also need an occasional time off. This is recognized as well. Family is a similar natural need, but with different temporal cycles. Any workplace that does not recognize the allowances required for family is not really in it for the long term. Any coworkers that begrudge a maternity or paternity leave are themselves at fault, not the parent.

sinatra 12y ago
> How can someone "exploit maternity"? When they tell work that they need to stay home due to some "medical complications." while they hang-out with their coworker friends in evenings and show-off that they were exploiting the situation. Yes, people do that. Family is the right priority. No doubt about that. In that case, such a person should say so to the employers. "I can't come to work for 7 more months because I prefer to take care of my baby. Please make appropriate plans." is very different from "My doctor said I shouldn't come to work for another few weeks. Continue paying me, and don't hire my replacement, because it's just a matter of few weeks." Especially if you then show-off to your coworkers in the evening how you were exploiting the situation. Who picks up that slack when the employer doesn't hire a replacement? Those same coworkers. > Any coworkers that begrudge a maternity or paternity leave are themselves at fault, not the parent. Oh come on! Nowhere did I say that her coworkers begrudge just because she took a maternity leave.

by fsloth 12y ago

sinatra 12y ago

> How can someone "exploit maternity"? When they tell work that they need to stay home due to some "medical complications." while they hang-out with their coworker friends in evenings and show-off that they were exploiting the situation. Yes, people do that. Family is the right priority. No doubt about that. In that case, such a person should say so to the employers. "I can't come to work for 7 more months because I prefer to take care of my baby. Please make appropriate plans." is very different from "My doctor said I shouldn't come to work for another few weeks. Continue paying me, and don't hire my replacement, because it's just a matter of few weeks." Especially if you then show-off to your coworkers in the evening how you were exploiting the situation. Who picks up that slack when the employer doesn't hire a replacement? Those same coworkers. > Any coworkers that begrudge a maternity or paternity leave are themselves at fault, not the parent. Oh come on! Nowhere did I say that her coworkers begrudge just because she took a maternity leave.