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A lot of these 'problems' and 'lessons' seem to come as a byproduct of being a part of a 'scene' to do with startups, particularly uninspiring web and mobile st

A lot of these 'problems' and 'lessons' seem to come as a byproduct of being a part of a 'scene' to do with startups, particularly uninspiring web and mobile startups. 'Uninspiring', to me, means people doing a startup for the sake of doing a startup, not because they're passionate about the problem, have found a good opportunity/market to exploit, etc. One of the best pieces of advice I got was to not associated with losers. It's harsh, I know, but if you see people around you not being productive and successful, chances are you're in the wrong peer group. Better to have a smaller and higher quality social circle than to let your time be wasted by 'the scene'. There's a good heuristic - anytime someone calls something a 'scene', it's time to leave. It means the people are interested more in the idea of what they're doing than the real thing.

brc 12y ago
It's also one of the hardest things to avoid - associating with losers. That is because the losers tend to look for company and make it easy to join their groups, while the achievers and doers jealously guard their time and acquaintances - which is why they are achievers and doers. A neat way around this can be to start doing recreational activities that achievers do. Taking time to develop skills in whatever that is will help to make friendships and relationships that matter. This doesn't have to be as obvious as joining an expensive golf club - in fact, that club might be populated by losers in the 'golf scene' - golf is horrendously time-soaking. It could be an early morning cycling group, could be anything. It's most likely not a pub-visiting binge drinking group.