According to Gilbert, the unhappiness seems to stem from differing parenting styles, constant chaos and our inability to adapt and deal with the change (kinda l

According to Gilbert, the unhappiness seems to stem from differing parenting styles, constant chaos and our inability to adapt and deal with the change (kinda like what you are saying). That said, have you seen this TED talk: http://www.ted.com/talks/bruce_feiler_agile_programming_for_your_family http://www.ted.com/talks/bruce_feiler_agile_programming_for_... Might be worth piloting to see if you can learn and iterate towards a happier life with your spouse?