> Really, it is that easy. [...] > Broke up, started eating less, working out more. > Around the time I started my first bout exercising and eating normally,

> Really, it is that easy. [...] > Broke up, started eating less, working out more. > Around the time I started my first bout exercising and eating normally, I worked with basically an entire office of developers who were fitness nuts. Guys who can run a 10K faster than I could dream at my height, and lift nearly 2 of me. So you broke up with a (in this context) toxic girlfriend, and found yourself surrounded by fitness nuts. I truly applaud the fact that you used your situation to get in shape, but at the same time it's important to realize that you used your situation. I know many people who are not working with fitness nuts, or who for various reasons are still in relationships with 'toxic' partners. And that is all the difference. I don't mean to start an argument, by the way. I just want to point out that this is a thorny problem. I often feel that the best way to help people in unhealthy environments is to remove them from that environment. But I've also experienced that this is hella difficult, because as social creates many of us are terrified of losing our SO, family, or familiar environment. And that is sometimes the primary impediment to a better, healthier, and happier life. It's like watching City of God or The Wire and hearing that the average age of death is in the twenties. I found myself almost screaming at the characters on screen to just fucking move and find a better place. And yet, as shown in The Wire, even the characters that had a chance to move to a better place eventually came back, because this 'other' place was just too weird and lonely and unfamiliar.