You are correct—romans did not have some blanket dislike of cruelty. Slaves were property, and they were used as property. This included rape, torture and murde

You are correct—romans did not have some blanket dislike of cruelty. Slaves were property, and they were used as property. This included rape, torture and murder without any cause, etc. If a citizen had a wife and female slaves, he would not be expected to be monogamous, sexually, with his wife, although he would be expected to refrain from embarrassing his wife socially. However, it is important to note that to a roman citizen, decorum dictated their public behavior, not laws. This is why all the bickering that surrounded the change from a republic to an empire seems more like a soap opera, with public insults about the others' masculinity on the senate floor, and sleeping with their wives in private. This is also why you have a huge variety of culture and religion in the empire—Christianity made the empire LOOK bad. Keep in mind that this is a state that, at points in its life, recorded "rape by monkeys" as a punishment. They didn't have many qualms about treating people poorly the way we might today when "justice" was involved. In fact, I would argue our current form of government is not oriented around justice, but ensuring a homogenous culture of morality. Back to the point. Slavery was fairly unrestricted in ancient rome. That doesn't mean that all slaves were actually treated poorly. As noted extensively elsewhere in texts, the romans were pragmatic about how they used their slaves: they may be property, but a slave that you don't treat well will still be cooking your food, maintaining your estate. They're not going to care if they are your property if they decide they'd rather kill you than put up with you, and slaves would often outnumber non-slaves in upper class households. So often slaves would be given wages, asked to raise these children. Saturnalia, the roman "christmas", turned the tables around and had the masters give their slaves gifts and serve them. Now, I don't know how much of the article you read. It seems like you only read the first three paragraphs, from what you quoted, because the article openly acknowledges how brutal Rome can be. You're not going to get much out of an article if you disagree with the first few paragraphs unless you already agree with them.