What matters is how you raise them, not why they were born While that's likely true, I think it's also wise to consider that it is probably unwise to consider

What matters is how you raise them, not why they were born While that's likely true, I think it's also wise to consider that it is probably unwise to consider "having kids" as a _solution_ to a problem. Having kids is signing up for a half decade of never sleeping the same way again, never having "you" time easily, etc. It's a mountain of stress on both parents, and should not be entered into lightly -- else how will one manage to raise the kids well?