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My wife would probably be better able to respond to specific websites and discussion as she's been far more involved in the online communities surrounding our d

My wife would probably be better able to respond to specific websites and discussion as she's been far more involved in the online communities surrounding our daughters disorder. I've asked for some links from her, but there were several comments in the linked article that seem to suggest accepting neuro-diversity warts and all. Believe me that I'm tickled by my daughters extreme interests - but we DO want to cure her of her disruptive and dangerous behaviors. We have called the sheriffs office during one of our daughters most extreme tantrums - they couldn't have been nicer or more understanding and helped us out considerably during their visit. I suspect our county sheriff (Santa Cruz, ca) has had extra training in that regard. On the other hand, we have also had to deal with child protective services, called because of bruises noticed by the school. We got the third degree, but since we've also had to do a lot of video recording of her tantrums, it was pretty easy to establish that - aside from our having to restrain her, her bruises were self inflicted. On her good days, she's a joy and a wonder. On her bad days, she's a beast from the nether pits of hell. But we will stick by her.

maratd 12y ago
> On her good days, she's a joy and a wonder. On her bad days, she's a beast from the nether pits of hell. But we will stick by her. I don't understand this. Shouldn't the behavior be constant? Have you been able to coax good days out of her by changing the environment, food, your behavior, etc? Can you predict the bad days? Is there a pattern?
- AnkhMorporkian 12y ago
  Children, neurotypical or not, have very inconsistent behaviors. You may be able to generalize in some broad cases, but a child presented with a stimulus may react one way any given day, and completely the opposite the next day. They're as unpredictable as can be.
- bsder 12y ago
  > I don't understand this. Shouldn't the behavior be constant? Spoken like a programmer. Adults aren't even consistent. Ever seen a woman going completely apeshit at a male for some reason (sometime justified, sometimes not)? Biological organisms have significant variations. Sometimes you get an angel; sometimes you get a devil; sometimes both. In the past, resources were sufficiently scarce that children (and adults) who weren't capable of fitting into society were killed or allowed to die.
  - needacig 12y ago
    > Ever seen a woman going completely apeshit at a male for some reason (sometime justified, sometimes not)? Why would you use that example?
    - bsder 12y ago
      I needed an example of an adult giving an emotionally based, uncontrolled outburst. I have easily seen a dozen or more incidents of women doing this in public. I have only ever once seen a man do this. I suspect the imbalance is because men prone to this behavior resort to violence privately. Strangers will step in to help a woman but not a man.
      - needacig 12y ago
        I've never seen a woman do this so I suspect this is just your stereotype-based expectations biasing your interpretations. Peoples' memory of events are notoriously unreliable and extremely susceptible to the power of suggestion, like the suggestion that women are more prone to emotional outbursts, which is an age-old trope. http://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2012/mar/08/mind-your-language-feminisation-madness http://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2012/mar...

maratd 12y ago

> On her good days, she's a joy and a wonder. On her bad days, she's a beast from the nether pits of hell. But we will stick by her. I don't understand this. Shouldn't the behavior be constant? Have you been able to coax good days out of her by changing the environment, food, your behavior, etc? Can you predict the bad days? Is there a pattern?

AnkhMorporkian 12y ago
Children, neurotypical or not, have very inconsistent behaviors. You may be able to generalize in some broad cases, but a child presented with a stimulus may react one way any given day, and completely the opposite the next day. They're as unpredictable as can be.
bsder 12y ago
> I don't understand this. Shouldn't the behavior be constant? Spoken like a programmer. Adults aren't even consistent. Ever seen a woman going completely apeshit at a male for some reason (sometime justified, sometimes not)? Biological organisms have significant variations. Sometimes you get an angel; sometimes you get a devil; sometimes both. In the past, resources were sufficiently scarce that children (and adults) who weren't capable of fitting into society were killed or allowed to die.
- needacig 12y ago
  > Ever seen a woman going completely apeshit at a male for some reason (sometime justified, sometimes not)? Why would you use that example?
  - bsder 12y ago
    I needed an example of an adult giving an emotionally based, uncontrolled outburst. I have easily seen a dozen or more incidents of women doing this in public. I have only ever once seen a man do this. I suspect the imbalance is because men prone to this behavior resort to violence privately. Strangers will step in to help a woman but not a man.
    - needacig 12y ago
      I've never seen a woman do this so I suspect this is just your stereotype-based expectations biasing your interpretations. Peoples' memory of events are notoriously unreliable and extremely susceptible to the power of suggestion, like the suggestion that women are more prone to emotional outbursts, which is an age-old trope. http://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2012/mar/08/mind-your-language-feminisation-madness http://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2012/mar...