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I'm in a very similar boat - my parents were 48 and 38 when I was born (I'm 29), so they're really starting to get old. My wife and I decided screw it, we're g
by patmcc 12y ago
I'm in a very similar boat - my parents were 48 and 38 when I was born (I'm 29), so they're really starting to get old.
My wife and I decided screw it, we're going to have kids now, despite not being in the best places professionally. It might be tough, but we're still in a much better place than ~75% of people when they start having kids, and we think we'll figure it out.
And so, this morning, we got to hear our kid's heartbeat for the first time. It's scary, and the idea of not being in the "ideal" job is worrying, and doubly so for my wife (who still needs some more experience to get her professional designation), but kids/pregnancy is sadly not something that can be put off indefinitely without consequences. So we bought the bullet, and we're going to make it work.
- tezzer 12y agoCongratulations! My wife and I decided there was never an ideal time, possibly never a good time, to have kids, so we jumped in (at 30 for her and 40 for me) to have 2 in 2 years. I have superiors with kids who have been very understanding on the days when I've been a zombie from no sleep, when I have to take sick days because my wife is overwhelmed, etc. etc. It's hard for both of us but I'm really glad we did it now, not when we were older and less flexible/energetic/fun. She's starting to think about career again, and will take her time figuring out what she wants to do in a couple of years when we're OK with the youngest, an infant now, going into day care. Good luck!
- omilu 12y agoYep, no time is the right time (except maybe waiting until after college). It will be hard no matter what. All you can do is hold on and enjoy the ride. Good luck. Father of 3 speaking.