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> The two are not bijective. You can be a very interesting person to most people while still finding most other people not very interesting. Indeed, that theor

> The two are not bijective. You can be a very interesting person to most people while still finding most other people not very interesting. Indeed, that theoretically can be true. In every instance I have ever heard of, witnessed or been made aware of in any way, however, it holds. The plural of anecdote is not data, granted. But ask any advice columnist. If you find other people boring as a matter of routine, that's not because they're boring, it's because you are. Same as with any other part of life. If X keeps happening to you over and over again, and X is statistically uncommon, then either you have weird luck or X is related to something inside you, rather than something to do with the world at large.

Kalium 12y ago
From experience, people who engage with me for any length of time tend to find me very interesting. Perhaps I'm simply an exception to your rule. Now that I write it, that sounds egotistical.
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Double_Cast 12y ago
[I wrote another reply earlier. In retrospect, it was pretty ranty. I'll try a different angle.] I've been an introvert forever. My parents in particular would tell me things like "conversation is a game of throw and catch". When I got older, I realized I wasn't shy -- I just hated making small talk. So I responded "Believe it or not, I know how to hold a conversation. I just don't like small talk." Whenever I tried to steer the conversation towards what I considered more interesting topics, "Um, I didn't want to turn this into a philosophical conversation." Cool. We have divergent interests. I'm capable of keeping myself busy. But my parents would continued to repeat "you gotta throw back the ball sometimes". So one day, as a teenager, I decided I would try this whole "congeniality" shtick. You know, for science. I was genuinely congenial for several months. I can assert this with confidence because people noticed. Several complimented me on how I came "out of my shell". At the end of my experiment, I decided congeniality was exactly as overrated as I thought it would be. I've generally been schizotypal-by-default ever since, and never looked back.

Kalium 12y ago

From experience, people who engage with me for any length of time tend to find me very interesting. Perhaps I'm simply an exception to your rule. Now that I write it, that sounds egotistical.

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Double_Cast 12y ago

[I wrote another reply earlier. In retrospect, it was pretty ranty. I'll try a different angle.] I've been an introvert forever. My parents in particular would tell me things like "conversation is a game of throw and catch". When I got older, I realized I wasn't shy -- I just hated making small talk. So I responded "Believe it or not, I know how to hold a conversation. I just don't like small talk." Whenever I tried to steer the conversation towards what I considered more interesting topics, "Um, I didn't want to turn this into a philosophical conversation." Cool. We have divergent interests. I'm capable of keeping myself busy. But my parents would continued to repeat "you gotta throw back the ball sometimes". So one day, as a teenager, I decided I would try this whole "congeniality" shtick. You know, for science. I was genuinely congenial for several months. I can assert this with confidence because people noticed. Several complimented me on how I came "out of my shell". At the end of my experiment, I decided congeniality was exactly as overrated as I thought it would be. I've generally been schizotypal-by-default ever since, and never looked back.