I experience something similar. Besides having high scores on those online "EQ" quizzes, it's astoundingly easy for me to be liked if I make the effort to "turn

I experience something similar. Besides having high scores on those online "EQ" quizzes, it's astoundingly easy for me to be liked if I make the effort to "turn it on," to the point where I feel completely undeserving and out of place being welcomed. The downside is that if someone is a skillful manipulator, they'll use my empathy against me(many confidence schemes involve some of this). And if I hurt someone I'll basically remember it forever, so I'm predisposed towards pacifism even at my most hyped up and aggressive. Given all of that, I have gradually established certain "rules of engagement" that aim for noble uses of these various strengths and weaknesses - whom I am allowed to be involved with, and on what levels, in various situations, and what is a "good" way to be involved with someone. I subscribe heavily to Stoicism. I also think often on how socialization works elsewhere in nature, to realign my perspective on human society.