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My two cents: As you point out in the question, you're never going to receive a set of rules that you just have to follow like a checklist, because the same be
by cjbprime 12y ago
My two cents:
As you point out in the question, you're never going to receive a set of rules that you just have to follow like a checklist, because the same behaviors can be consensual and encouraged between one pair of people, and non-consensual and creepy between another pair of people. That's normal.
The only definitive rule is: don't hurt people. If you hurt someone, even in a small way -- and you will -- apologize sincerely when called out, and try harder next time. No-one expects you to never make (non-huge) mistakes; just to learn from the ones you make.
- randallsquared 12y ago> you're never going to receive a set of rules that you just have to follow like a checklist, because the same behaviors can be consensual and encouraged between one pair of people, and non-consensual and creepy between another pair of people. That's normal. And awful. That's one reason that this problem looms larger in technical circles: we're already far more likely than the average to be socially awkward or otherwise ill-equipped to navigate these waters. I can be a fun and flirty person in the right group, but at work I do my best to act as though I am completely without sex/gender and as though everyone else is, too. If sexual, gendered, or racial topics come up, I say nothing on those topics and try to extricate myself from the situation. If the situation is around my desk, I quietly dive back into work. This is the only way to have an acceptably low risk of late night realization that I said something that someone could have taken as harassment.
- pekk 12y agoWhether they are socially awkward or not, I don't think it's fair to say that technical people are more prone than others to sexual harassment (or rape, for that matter).