I think that the narrative that you tell yourself is the narrative that you believe. If you tell yourself you are a whiner then the next time you whine, you hav

I think that the narrative that you tell yourself is the narrative that you believe. If you tell yourself you are a whiner then the next time you whine, you have a reason to, you are a whiner, after all. Change the story you tell yourself so that you can start to change the behavior that you allow yourself to engage in. Learn, also, to put things things in perspective. You got to where you are through a very long series of achievements. The next time you find yourself on the verge of a panic attack, look back to the last time you did and think about how you came out on the other side. I have the same problems you describe. I struggle with it, but I found that becoming aware of the root causes and finding strategies for dealing with them has helped me.