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You're projecting. While you may have trouble being embarrassed and caring about what other people think, some people don't. To say that your own problems mean

You're projecting. While you may have trouble being embarrassed and caring about what other people think, some people don't. To say that your own problems mean that "100% honesty with other people is a joke" is impossibly closed minded.

learc83 12y ago
> While you may have trouble being embarrassed and caring about what other people think, some people don't. Take the most confident self assured person you can find, and I can guarantee they are self-conscious about something. I refuse to believe that anyone has transcended so far above petty human concerns that they don't care what other people think at all...about anything. Sure some people care less than others, but this transcendent person would have to be a complete narcissist. That being said, the story of being embarrassed was just an example of information you can posses that you don't want other people to know. It's very likely you hold at least a few opinions that would cause you pretty serious harm if you voiced them, even if they don't embarrass you. Paul Graham wrote an essay a while back that hypothesized that everyone has opinions like this. >To say that your own problems mean that "100% honesty with other people is a joke" is impossibly closed minded. If you've deceived yourself into thinking you are 100% honest with anyone, then you're being dishonest with yourself.
- forthefuture 12y ago
  All I can say is that I'm sorry you believe that. I literally can't remember the last lie I told. I actually can't imagine what someone would have to ask me that I would have to lie. I guess we just have drastically different life situations.
  - learc83 12y ago
    >All I can say is that I'm sorry you believe that. So what you're saying is you have absolutely nothing to hide, you are so self confident that you aren't embarrassed by a single thought or action (or at least not embarrassed enough to hide). And in addition to not having done or thought anything that you are personally embarrassed by, you don't hold any opinions that could cause trouble for you (personally or professionally) if they were made public? I'll quote Paul Graham's essay on this point. "Let's start with a test: Do you have any opinions that you would be reluctant to express in front of a group of your peers? If the answer is no, you might want to stop and think about that. If everything you believe is something you're supposed to believe, could that possibly be a coincidence? Odds are it isn't. Odds are you just think whatever you're told. The other alternative would be that you independently considered every question and came up with the exact same answers that are now considered acceptable. That seems unlikely, because you'd also have to make the same mistakes. " > I literally can't remember the last lie I told. I believe you might not remember the last time you told a lie, but that doesn't mean you're 100% honest. Secret Santa at the office gives you a Christmas gift that you absolutely hate. What do you do?
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learc83 12y ago

> While you may have trouble being embarrassed and caring about what other people think, some people don't. Take the most confident self assured person you can find, and I can guarantee they are self-conscious about something. I refuse to believe that anyone has transcended so far above petty human concerns that they don't care what other people think at all...about anything. Sure some people care less than others, but this transcendent person would have to be a complete narcissist. That being said, the story of being embarrassed was just an example of information you can posses that you don't want other people to know. It's very likely you hold at least a few opinions that would cause you pretty serious harm if you voiced them, even if they don't embarrass you. Paul Graham wrote an essay a while back that hypothesized that everyone has opinions like this. >To say that your own problems mean that "100% honesty with other people is a joke" is impossibly closed minded. If you've deceived yourself into thinking you are 100% honest with anyone, then you're being dishonest with yourself.

forthefuture 12y ago
All I can say is that I'm sorry you believe that. I literally can't remember the last lie I told. I actually can't imagine what someone would have to ask me that I would have to lie. I guess we just have drastically different life situations.
- learc83 12y ago
  >All I can say is that I'm sorry you believe that. So what you're saying is you have absolutely nothing to hide, you are so self confident that you aren't embarrassed by a single thought or action (or at least not embarrassed enough to hide). And in addition to not having done or thought anything that you are personally embarrassed by, you don't hold any opinions that could cause trouble for you (personally or professionally) if they were made public? I'll quote Paul Graham's essay on this point. "Let's start with a test: Do you have any opinions that you would be reluctant to express in front of a group of your peers? If the answer is no, you might want to stop and think about that. If everything you believe is something you're supposed to believe, could that possibly be a coincidence? Odds are it isn't. Odds are you just think whatever you're told. The other alternative would be that you independently considered every question and came up with the exact same answers that are now considered acceptable. That seems unlikely, because you'd also have to make the same mistakes. " > I literally can't remember the last lie I told. I believe you might not remember the last time you told a lie, but that doesn't mean you're 100% honest. Secret Santa at the office gives you a Christmas gift that you absolutely hate. What do you do?
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