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There's a difference between "lower self-confidence" and "can't handle pressure, stress, and competition". It's also possible that even women who have high sel

There's a difference between "lower self-confidence" and "can't handle pressure, stress, and competition". It's also possible that even women who have high self confidence in their abilities are less confident that they will be judged positively by others. There's plenty of research to the effect that men will apply to a job if they meet 40% of the listed requirements, whereas women won't until they meet 90%. And when you don't meet someone's default expectations of what kind of person a "software developer" (or a "nurse" or a "CEO") is, you often have to work harder to prove that you are one. But also, why does the working world have to be competitive rather than collaborative?

mason240 12y ago
I'm not saying that working world has to be competitive rather than collaborative. The OP is talking situations that are presented as being competitive.
- cauterized 12y ago
  To me at least, what's intimidating about applying for a job described as Fog Creek's are isn't that they're competitive -- they don't say "you'll be in a knock-down drag-out competition to beat 100 other candidates". It's that the criteria for acceptance are high -- only those who have an extremely high opinion of their own abilities will consider themselves likely not only to meet those criteria but to be judged by others as meeting those criteria. And many people who are very capable are unlikely to judge themselves so favorably. Women in particular are socialized to underrate our own abilities and conditioned to expect our abilities to be underrated by others, especially in STEM fields.