> We deny her feelings, and in doing so we exclude her and other women. Now that comment is sexist, because you deny men the right to have the same feelings. I

> We deny her feelings, and in doing so we exclude her and other women. Now that comment is sexist, because you deny men the right to have the same feelings. It's easy to pick nits, especially in those fields. I don't think that anybody denies Adria's right to feel offended, at least not really. Feelings are irrational, that's why we don't get to fully explain them logically (quite convenient). Actions, on the other hand, should be rational, and we are often judged by their rationality. We can only speculate how Adria felt, and it doesn't really matter. Her actions and words are what got her into trouble. When compared to the comments she overheard on the conference, it is not just out of proportion, but completely out of direction as well. Perhaps the worst part is that this kind of attitude actually _hurts_ tolerance instead of improving it. I'd love to have a productive black Jewish female on my team. I'd hate to have someone obsessing about racism, sexism and hurt feelings, regardless of their race and gender.