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Handling it personally makes a lot of sense. I have children, I don't teach them to immediately run to authority the minute they are offended. You should be abl
by altcognito 12y ago
Handling it personally makes a lot of sense. I have children, I don't teach them to immediately run to authority the minute they are offended. You should be able to confront/request somebody behave appropriately without them "giving back a mouthful of abuse". And therein lies the key, if they give you back a mouthful of abuse, then take it higher up. There are absolutely situations where going directly to conf organizers and staff is appropriate, but this doesn't seem like one to me.
- Jem 12y agoI also have children, and I'm not sure how it's relevant. Of course you SHOULD be able to tell someone you're offended without the risk of backlash, but it's always a risk. Clearly Adria decided to handle that risk in a different way than you or I would have.
- altcognito 12y agoIt's relevant because talking directly to people and not tattle-telling is part of growing up, and it's unfortunate this wasn't done. It doesn't mean she isn't grown up though as this is just one non-representative tiny slice of two people's entire lives. Honestly, I didn't get a chance to update my message, but another question (seen here and elsewhere) is probably more important: "Why isn't the story about her life being threatened over this?" That's the more ridiculous part of this story.
- mercurial 12y agoIf all she had done was go the organizers, we wouldn't be talking about it.