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I wanted to take some time before answering this, to make sure that my feelings did not change, and they haven’t. I do not consider a question of pretending to
by picks_at_nits 12y ago
I wanted to take some time before answering this, to make sure that my feelings did not change, and they haven’t.
I do not consider a question of pretending to be someone I’m not a question of “strategy.” I do not need to convince myself that it leads to some better outcome for me to be authentic with people.
It’s one of my values, and values are things you explicitly recognize are sometimes sub-optimal for the things you wish to pursue.
- sanderjd 12y agoI think you read my comment in a much more personal way than was intended, but I can see why, and I'm sorry for that. I didn't at all mean to suggest that you (personally) are playing out a "strategy" that you have devised to get ahead, and I absolutely got the impression from your original comment that it is a matter of values for you, which I think is great. My point was mostly that for many people interviewing for jobs, that authenticity is a luxury that is difficult for them to achieve.
- picks_at_nits 12y agoI think I understand what you are trying to say, but when you describe values as “luxuries,” I think we’re standing on opposite sides of a chasm shouting at each other.