It's a parenting fail if you can't control a situation to the point where your child is experiencing emotional distress to the point of kicking and screaming.

It's a parenting fail if you can't control a situation to the point where your child is experiencing emotional distress to the point of kicking and screaming. This is an incredibly broad and judgemental comment. Kids experience "emotional distress" all the time, without it being a "parenting fail". Many kids go through a "kicking and screaming" phase, and it takes time to work through this phase.