My wife and I do something similar. We give our daughter (she's almost three) a few choices with most anything that involves a decision. A trivial example woul

My wife and I do something similar. We give our daughter (she's almost three) a few choices with most anything that involves a decision. A trivial example would be that if we're eating something that is traditionally a finger food and she wants to use a fork. We'll respond "You can use your right hand or left hand, it's up to you." and it avoids the confrontation completely because she gets to decide. She chooses a hand and life goes on. Another example is sitting in her chair at the table. She'll normally ignore me when I ask her to climb in her chair but the moment I put a decision before her of getting in the chair on her own or I'll do it for her she hops right up. It becomes second nature after a while and for us it's been a lot less stress and a time saver.