Yes, these guys are creeps. But calling someone a creep doesn't make them any less of a creep, nor does it prevent them from being a creep in the future. If an

Yes, these guys are creeps. But calling someone a creep doesn't make them any less of a creep, nor does it prevent them from being a creep in the future. If anything, it is likely to make them defensive and make it harder for someone else to fix the problem. Nobody hands you a rulebook when you start dating about how to do it. Particularly as a guy, if you do something inappropriate, you'll likely never find out about it--you'll just get rejected and never know why. It's only by luck that I've happened upon a set of behaviors that makes women feel safe around me. From this side of the fence I frequently hear women talking about how creepy someone is, but never telling that person. A lot of guys are creeps, not because they intend to cause any harm, but because nobody ever gave them any feedback about how they can do better. Now, I realize it's not women's responsibility to educate men on how to pursue dating appropriately. But at least don't make the problem worse. If you don't want to tell the person their behavior is inappropriate, that's fine. But if you have a problem with someone you should address it with that person, not go around talking about them behind their backs. Going around calling people creeps isn't appropriate behavior either. For my part, I try to explain to guys what they're doing wrong when I see it. But that's pretty difficult to do because calling people creeps has created a culture where it's nearly impossible to have a candid conversation about how men can learn to date appropriately.