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Read through a few. Most are just very normal people saying hi to strangers. When did that get creepy? Everyone is a stranger the first time they meet. I've met

Read through a few. Most are just very normal people saying hi to strangers. When did that get creepy? Everyone is a stranger the first time they meet. I've met more than one girlfriend online without knowing anything about them, and our first contact was pretty much exactly like those messages. If it's unwelcome, then just don't respond, or say "no thanks". Don't be an asshole and publicly humiliate people for reaching out and asking for a date. Shame on whoever created that bullshit site.

daveth3cat 12y ago
Agreed.
DanBC 12y ago
The current first page on that site are men making comments about the physical attractiveness of women. Those women are not on the site to have people talking about their looks. They're there to meet other business people. Do you really think it's acceptable to walk up to a stranger in some business context and tell them that they are very pretty, with a heart-melting smile, and then ask for a date?
- gizzlon 12y ago
  I didn't go outside today to have people begging me for money, but they did. I did not go to the office to have that boring annoying guy talk to me, but he did. I did not go to the cafe to have the cute barista girl smile at me, but she did.. Stuff happens, so what? How far do do you have to have a stick up your ass to be so offended by this it makes you start a blog? FFS..
  - cloakandswagger 12y ago
    Through the lens of modern social justice zealotry, you have a right--and others have an obligation--to never offend or impose upon your secret, unspoken list of hang-ups and triggers. Anyone who does is fair game for public shaming.
    - DanBC 12y ago
      That's a shameful misrepresentation of what's happening here.
      - valdiorn 12y ago
        You want to talk about shameful misrepresentation in the same post you're trying to defend this website? Really? If anything's as shameful misrepresentation it's calling these people out as creeps and pervent, shaming them on a public website, now syndicated to the hundreds of thousands of readers of Hacker News, for simply hitting on a girl (in a not-so-creepy way, if I might add). Wrong venue, sure. But does it call for this?
ben1040 12y ago
>Most are just very normal people saying hi to strangers. When did that get creepy? Everyone is a stranger the first time they meet. I've met more than one girlfriend online without knowing anything about them, and our first contact was pretty much exactly like those messages. It's about context. You might exchange these sorts of messages on OK Cupid, because that's the point - you sign up for that service to exchange "romantic" introductions. Would you say any of these things to a colleague at the office? To borrow from one of the messages posted on this site, if you worked for a hospital, would you walk up to an ICU nurse and say "hey, you're pretty, I could use some intensive care?"

daveth3cat 12y ago

Agreed.

DanBC 12y ago

The current first page on that site are men making comments about the physical attractiveness of women. Those women are not on the site to have people talking about their looks. They're there to meet other business people. Do you really think it's acceptable to walk up to a stranger in some business context and tell them that they are very pretty, with a heart-melting smile, and then ask for a date?

gizzlon 12y ago
I didn't go outside today to have people begging me for money, but they did. I did not go to the office to have that boring annoying guy talk to me, but he did. I did not go to the cafe to have the cute barista girl smile at me, but she did.. Stuff happens, so what? How far do do you have to have a stick up your ass to be so offended by this it makes you start a blog? FFS..
- cloakandswagger 12y ago
  Through the lens of modern social justice zealotry, you have a right--and others have an obligation--to never offend or impose upon your secret, unspoken list of hang-ups and triggers. Anyone who does is fair game for public shaming.
  - DanBC 12y ago
    That's a shameful misrepresentation of what's happening here.
    - valdiorn 12y ago
      You want to talk about shameful misrepresentation in the same post you're trying to defend this website? Really? If anything's as shameful misrepresentation it's calling these people out as creeps and pervent, shaming them on a public website, now syndicated to the hundreds of thousands of readers of Hacker News, for simply hitting on a girl (in a not-so-creepy way, if I might add). Wrong venue, sure. But does it call for this?

ben1040 12y ago

>Most are just very normal people saying hi to strangers. When did that get creepy? Everyone is a stranger the first time they meet. I've met more than one girlfriend online without knowing anything about them, and our first contact was pretty much exactly like those messages. It's about context. You might exchange these sorts of messages on OK Cupid, because that's the point - you sign up for that service to exchange "romantic" introductions. Would you say any of these things to a colleague at the office? To borrow from one of the messages posted on this site, if you worked for a hospital, would you walk up to an ICU nurse and say "hey, you're pretty, I could use some intensive care?"