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Tell that to the woman who is desperate for a mate.

Tichy 17y ago
Desperate for someone to mate with, or desperate for someone to pay the child support? The former would be easy, but I suspect most women who are feeling lonely are really looking for the child support aspect. As the blogger told us, it is increasingly becoming a non-issue as women are better able to earn money themselves.
- michael_browne 17y ago
  While it's true that procuring material/financial support from a man isn't the necessity it used to be for women, I would suggest they are still hard-wired, to an extent, as well as socially conditioned to be attracted to men with available resources (also consider the increasingly popular belief that an acceptable lifestyle requires two incomes.) Keep in mind, too, that emotional support is likely considered by women more important than it used to be. They are less likely today to be satisfied with a man who just goes to work everyday and is then distant and uninvolved in domestic life. This is another reason for women to be selective of their mate for what he can provide (rather than just who he is,) despite their opportunity to be financially self-sufficient.
  - Tichy 17y ago
    I think since women can afford to let men work for them (their "service" to reproduction is more expensive, so they can ask a higher price), many will just choose to not work and let the men pay instead. Not everybody LIKES to work.
michael_browne 17y ago
Virtually any woman (regardless of all but the most extreme physical/personality/etc. deficiencies) can find numerous mates at any time, she just has to wander into the nearest nightclub, bar, mall, etc. Of course, most of these men aren't going to meet her standards in one way or another but, the point is, on a biological level reproduction is not a challenge for women...sperm is not a scarce resource. This is true both historically (dating back to caveman days) and in present times. The difficulty is that women usually aren't just looking to reproduce, they're looking for someone to support them and their potential children, thus the high level of selectivity.

Tichy 17y ago

Desperate for someone to mate with, or desperate for someone to pay the child support? The former would be easy, but I suspect most women who are feeling lonely are really looking for the child support aspect. As the blogger told us, it is increasingly becoming a non-issue as women are better able to earn money themselves.

michael_browne 17y ago
While it's true that procuring material/financial support from a man isn't the necessity it used to be for women, I would suggest they are still hard-wired, to an extent, as well as socially conditioned to be attracted to men with available resources (also consider the increasingly popular belief that an acceptable lifestyle requires two incomes.) Keep in mind, too, that emotional support is likely considered by women more important than it used to be. They are less likely today to be satisfied with a man who just goes to work everyday and is then distant and uninvolved in domestic life. This is another reason for women to be selective of their mate for what he can provide (rather than just who he is,) despite their opportunity to be financially self-sufficient.
- Tichy 17y ago
  I think since women can afford to let men work for them (their "service" to reproduction is more expensive, so they can ask a higher price), many will just choose to not work and let the men pay instead. Not everybody LIKES to work.

michael_browne 17y ago

Virtually any woman (regardless of all but the most extreme physical/personality/etc. deficiencies) can find numerous mates at any time, she just has to wander into the nearest nightclub, bar, mall, etc. Of course, most of these men aren't going to meet her standards in one way or another but, the point is, on a biological level reproduction is not a challenge for women...sperm is not a scarce resource. This is true both historically (dating back to caveman days) and in present times. The difficulty is that women usually aren't just looking to reproduce, they're looking for someone to support them and their potential children, thus the high level of selectivity.