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Step out of your comfort zone. This is fundamental to start change. If the change is positive this is another story.
by stakent 17y ago
Step out of your comfort zone.
This is fundamental to start change.
If the change is positive this is another story.
- stanleydrew 17y agoAgree. My argument is only that you won't know whether the changes you make are positive or negative until after you try them, so change lots of stuff and see.
- notauser 17y agoIf you change two things at once, you won't know which change led to the response. (I say this as an idiot who released _three_ big changes today, and is trying to work out which feature the feedback relates to.)
- stakent 17y agoExternal factors outside of application/site exists too. Nobody told that testing or using statistics in real life is easy. Business opportunity?
- brandnewlow 17y agoI have one rule that has served me well. "When in doubt, go out." If I ever find myself asking whether I should go to an event/party/meeting and the alternative involves staying home, I go out. It's always the right choice.
- stanleydrew 17y agoThis might be related to FOMO (fear of missing out).
- brandnewlow 17y agoFor me it's the opposite, a way to overcome my fear of being bored/uncomfortable/annoyed in an environment that I don't control.
- zandor 17y ago"When in doubt, go out." Words to live by!
- gnaritas 17y agoExcept it's not always the right choice. How many times do you have to go out and regret it before learning to say no?
- brandnewlow 17y agoIn theory it's not always the right choice. But in practice, choosing to be social instead of skulking around on the internet or watching TV by myself at home has turned out to be the right choice 100% of the time.
- gnaritas 17y agoFor you.
- brandnewlow 17y agoI don't know your situation, but I think making more connections with other people is innately and completely a good thing. I didn't want to go to a happy hour the other night, but followed my rule and dragged myself down there. Turns out I met the media buyer for an advertiser I've been trying to connect with. Completely random luck, right? Well yes, except that I put myself in a position to meet this guy by stepping out.
- unalone 17y agoLast year I was in a place where I hated going out. I wanted to go out but hated the available options. This year, I found something interesting: While I go out much more than I did last year, and always find something or other to occupy my time, I didn't instantly become a partier. Today I left the social gathering I went to early, and avoided a wilder party and a late-night movie. Partly it's just that I really don't like being around people for long periods of time. I'm not comfortable with most people I meet, and while I can handle mixed company, it's always with a bit too much cynicism and negativity and I don't like being the person who's known for knocking other people down. There's a difference between being scared/incapable of going out and choosing deliberately not to. Some people, myself included, prefer our own company to those of others.
- brandnewlow 17y agoI hear you loud and clear. I'm an introvert myself and believe that people like us 'recharge' through quality time alone. That said, I think it's a real handicap that can be overcome, like any other, by consistently pushing ourselves to go out and be social in some appropriate way, on a regular basis. If you're making something truly cool, I guarantee there are people out there who might not be your target audience, but might know someone who knows someone who is. You'll never make that connection unless you go out. It sucks but extroverts have a big advantage in these areas.
- aduric 17y agoAlso, always challenge yourself.