I don't think that's true at all that you can only lose. It's not especially hard to be a good ally to women (or any other underrepresented or underprivileged g

I don't think that's true at all that you can only lose. It's not especially hard to be a good ally to women (or any other underrepresented or underprivileged group). But it does require conscious effort to empathize with the issues they face, to speak up when you see unfairness, and--as the subject of the article seems to struggle with--to take yourself out of the spotlight. Give the people you're advocating for a mic to speak with about the issues they experience. If you find that you as a dude are dominating a conversation about women, you may be speaking over the actual women. Perhaps you even forgot to invite them to the conversation in the first place. I know I've been guilty of this before. But above all, remember that it's not about you winning.