The classic dissonance lies in self-selection. If you are a maximizer, you tend to want to live in a place like the City that has the best of everything. By de

The classic dissonance lies in self-selection. If you are a maximizer, you tend to want to live in a place like the City that has the best of everything. By definition, if you are searching for global maximums (at least in that city), you will be missing out. You can never be (always) at the best restaurant/party/social scene/conference/park. However, if you are willing to be more chillaxe and relax your guidelines, you can be more happy. A party at a chill lounge with friends. A picnic in the park surrounded by people of all ages having fun. Likewise, people who tend to move to the suburbs tend to maximize for their kids, rather than themselves. It is ok to go to Chuck E. Cheese or T.G.I. Fridays' on a Friday night (or the modern equivalent) since there are limited options. It is ok for the kid to start crying in public. You are where you are now.