> One can suck at, or dislike kickball and shine somewhere else. The lack of social acceptance, in this context, is related to the desire to play and not bein

> One can suck at, or dislike kickball and shine somewhere else. The lack of social acceptance, in this context, is related to the desire to play and not being accepted, more than the success at playing. The fact that you are in the the group to participate in kickball, means you, on some level, want/need to play kickball. (You could like kickball or are being forced to play it. In this context, the reason doesn't matter.) > but get "social acceptance" from their side activities You can fulfill the generic need elsewhere (like eating fish, instead of hamburger, to satiate your hunger). And, different sources of interactions have different psychological rewards, based on how you view yourself. If you admire self-starter entrepreneur types, do self-starter entrepreneur type things, and, as a result, are treated/seen as, and thus accepted as, a self-starter entrepreneur type. A greater feeling of acceptance and self-confidence is inevitable. But, to bring it back to my example, you were trying to play kickball, for whatever reason, and they didn't want you to play kickball with them.