Tech worker here who lived in the valley and frequented SF often. I ventured elsewhere about 3 years ago and recently visited friends for a week to decided if I

Tech worker here who lived in the valley and frequented SF often. I ventured elsewhere about 3 years ago and recently visited friends for a week to decided if I want to come back. The city has definitely changed.. The valley has definitely changed. Cultured has definitely fled. Egos have definitely gone through the roof. People have definitely become more impatient and unfriendly (esp in SF). If I come back, I would live in either Oakland or Berkeley. The city looks a lot more worn (aside from the newly minted millionares who have refurbished the Victorian homes in SF). Things have become a lot more homogeneous (not in a good way) and scaled up to meet the expectations of the monied. I have several friends who have lived in the valley for about 10 years who are currently looking to go up to either Seattle/Portland or move out to Austin. Female friends who comment about the nature of attitudes of males in the valley and how they don't feel they can find a level headed husband... And this all has to do w/ tech. New Money .. Egos .. and ever escalating rent/property values putting even more pressure on expression, culture, art, and the 'chill' atmosphere that was hallmark of SF. The new types I could imagine enjoy it very much and the bay still has much to offer everyone. It is what it is. However, this time around (2015), individuals thankfully have more choices around America and the world to pursue a tech minded career. If the bay area doesn't excite you anymore, I highly suggest getting out of there and seeing other parts of the world and not just for vacation. I am constantly shocked at how much more I have begun to enjoy art/culture/music venues/socialization/biking/nature after having left the bay. People tend to drink the kool-aid while in the bay and believe it is the only and best place on earth. Maybe that is a good thing as it keeps the hidden gems from getting flooding w/ money. I've gotten a chance to live in a city that was on the rise and have carefully observed the way in which money has influenced the way it is shaped... Stuffy SOHO mixed use development condos priced at $300k+ .. art that i paid $70 for now goes for $600 ... Tinderfication of dating (everyone becomes a transaction). Drowning out of culture/expression. I guess it seems wise to me, from my experience, to simply move around and enjoy cities in their prime. Life is too short to sit around playing bidding wars for culture/housing and endure the snotty attitudes/foolishness therein. There is no reason to get hostile in objection to these truths. The SF/bay area of today is not the SF of yesteryear. Culture is absent. People are more tense. The goal is to cram people in like sardines (much to the ignorance of what the Nimbies wanted to preserve). Money talks is the new motto ... I don't even want to get into the race (doesn't apply if you're white/Asian) and gender issues that have become even more pronounced. I will be quite thankful if the next revolution in tech is not spawned from the bay area. Maybe it will focus more on actually improving society vs the current trajectory of monetizing people w/o compensation.