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Sorry but if you've got breasts then you'll have to get used to guys looking at them. There was a recent study from NZ that found that 47% of men's first glance

Sorry but if you've got breasts then you'll have to get used to guys looking at them. There was a recent study from NZ that found that 47% of men's first glances at a women were towards their breasts. It's just biology. Also take in to account your average male coder might not have seen any for a while - well it is male dominated (sorry - "got to wait for the liquidity event to have a liquidity event!")! ;) wrt to asking your co-founders the same questions, my guess is that you are so paranoid about the "not looking in the eyes" thing that you appear unconfident and unsure, so people look to your co-founders for confirmation.

tianaco 17y ago
It's not about them looking at my breasts. More often they look away from me as if I don't exist at all.
- chrysb 17y ago
  Nerds are afraid of things they can't understand.
- mattm 17y ago
  Keep in mind, these are IT guys. I usually have to remind myself to look in someone's eyes when talking, be it man or woman. If I'm focusing on something else when someone is talking to me I might not even look at them at all. From what I've read about the differences between men and women, women are MUCH MUCH more likely to pick up subtle body language gestures compared to men and try to analyze what they mean. Try not to take these things personally. Many times it might not even have anything to do with you.
  - chrysb 17y ago
    Exactly. Lots of them are "awkward" or not "socially adept". Get used to it :)
Major_Grooves 17y ago
btw for the down-voters, I was just being pragmatic. A 47% chance in a 95% male industry, makes a pretty good chance of some guy trying to sneak a peek. The quote was from pg's talk at Startup School last weekend, where he mentioned that having a startup doesn't make you popular with girls. http://www.paulgraham.com/really.html http://www.paulgraham.com/really.html Apologies if it came across as offensive.

tianaco 17y ago

It's not about them looking at my breasts. More often they look away from me as if I don't exist at all.

chrysb 17y ago
Nerds are afraid of things they can't understand.
mattm 17y ago
Keep in mind, these are IT guys. I usually have to remind myself to look in someone's eyes when talking, be it man or woman. If I'm focusing on something else when someone is talking to me I might not even look at them at all. From what I've read about the differences between men and women, women are MUCH MUCH more likely to pick up subtle body language gestures compared to men and try to analyze what they mean. Try not to take these things personally. Many times it might not even have anything to do with you.
- chrysb 17y ago
  Exactly. Lots of them are "awkward" or not "socially adept". Get used to it :)

Major_Grooves 17y ago

btw for the down-voters, I was just being pragmatic. A 47% chance in a 95% male industry, makes a pretty good chance of some guy trying to sneak a peek. The quote was from pg's talk at Startup School last weekend, where he mentioned that having a startup doesn't make you popular with girls. http://www.paulgraham.com/really.html http://www.paulgraham.com/really.html Apologies if it came across as offensive.