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Yeah, that's a shitty thing to do. It's called Pussy Privilege. If a man did this, it'd be screamed at from mental abuse (drink) to rape(kiss). It sums up to :

by kefka 12y ago

Yeah, that's a shitty thing to do. It's called Pussy Privilege. If a man did this, it'd be screamed at from mental abuse (drink) to rape(kiss). It sums up to : I'm a woman, get me something because I "might" have sex with you. But not really. And those that realize this to its full potential can screw their way to the top.

chasing 12y ago
> It's called Pussy Privilege. On Reddit, maybe, but not when speaking with adults.
chrisbennet 12y ago
That sort of thing only works on men who think they can trade something for sex. If you buy a woman a drink (or bring a deer to her cave) with the expectation that she now "owes" you, be prepared to be disppointed. Suppose someone of the same sex bought you a drink, would you feel obligated to have sex with them? How about if they implied that they would love to invest in your company?
- yummyfajitas 12y ago
  Yes, blame the victim, a young college kid who didn't know any better. But I suppose even a college kid from a village with less than one lac people should immediately know all the subtleties of picking up women, right? FYI, it's a dick move to accept a drink from someone who you don't want to continue interacting with. I wouldn't accept a drink from a man I didn't want to at least hang out with either.
  - chrisbennet 12y ago
    Yes, it's totally a dick move to misrepresent your intentions in order to exploit someone. I agree with you. (BTW: I'm from a small village!) My comment was aimed at those men who feel "entitled" to things because they somehow imagine that every woman is a prostitute and it's just a matter of price. It's a question of respect and empathy. When someone tries to use the "law or reciprocity" for gain instead of being genuinely generous, they shouldn't be shocked when someone sees through their attempt and shuts them down.
    - kefka 12y ago
      But that was my initial point. It's verboten that a man does it at all. He may accept a drink offered to him, but would never prompt a woman for a drink. It is a bit different in male gay bars, having been to a few. Then the rule changes to "I'm interested in you, wanna drink?", in the implied consent that there will be communication and a showing of sexual interest. A woman can prompt a man for a drink, and have no intention at all of anything else, including communication. And by using social mores, the man looks bad to his peers if he refuses. This is what I meant.
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by kefka 12y ago

chasing 12y ago

> It's called Pussy Privilege. On Reddit, maybe, but not when speaking with adults.

chrisbennet 12y ago

That sort of thing only works on men who think they can trade something for sex. If you buy a woman a drink (or bring a deer to her cave) with the expectation that she now "owes" you, be prepared to be disppointed. Suppose someone of the same sex bought you a drink, would you feel obligated to have sex with them? How about if they implied that they would love to invest in your company?

yummyfajitas 12y ago
Yes, blame the victim, a young college kid who didn't know any better. But I suppose even a college kid from a village with less than one lac people should immediately know all the subtleties of picking up women, right? FYI, it's a dick move to accept a drink from someone who you don't want to continue interacting with. I wouldn't accept a drink from a man I didn't want to at least hang out with either.
- chrisbennet 12y ago
  Yes, it's totally a dick move to misrepresent your intentions in order to exploit someone. I agree with you. (BTW: I'm from a small village!) My comment was aimed at those men who feel "entitled" to things because they somehow imagine that every woman is a prostitute and it's just a matter of price. It's a question of respect and empathy. When someone tries to use the "law or reciprocity" for gain instead of being genuinely generous, they shouldn't be shocked when someone sees through their attempt and shuts them down.
  - kefka 12y ago
    But that was my initial point. It's verboten that a man does it at all. He may accept a drink offered to him, but would never prompt a woman for a drink. It is a bit different in male gay bars, having been to a few. Then the rule changes to "I'm interested in you, wanna drink?", in the implied consent that there will be communication and a showing of sexual interest. A woman can prompt a man for a drink, and have no intention at all of anything else, including communication. And by using social mores, the man looks bad to his peers if he refuses. This is what I meant.
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