Plus of course, if only "being polite" at the dinner table over a hand on a leg was all that was going on... I recently spoke with a fellow lady friend involve

Plus of course, if only "being polite" at the dinner table over a hand on a leg was all that was going on... I recently spoke with a fellow lady friend involved in the Cocoa community on the topic of harassment, and between the two of us, we came up with a list of men in the community we knew that crossed the line in some fashion or another. It sadly added new information to a list I already had in my head from other conversations and personal experiences. Everything from cheating and STIs to physical assault and rape. We don't speak out because people don't care, people wouldn't believe us (no level of proof is ever enough), and sometimes we try to speak out but those people in question are loved no matter what shit gets thrown their way. It isn't worth _our_ ruined reputations and huge emotional toll for telling the truth. And yet some people still manage to express surprise that I'm actively working towards leaving the industry... tech is special, people don't even get sent to sexual harassment training. :(