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As a 29 year old male myself, the of idea of dating a college undergraduate is just plain weird... particularly in this case, where there is such an obvious pow

by aliston 12y ago

As a 29 year old male myself, the of idea of dating a college undergraduate is just plain weird... particularly in this case, where there is such an obvious power imbalance. The outcome (though perhaps not the severity) should have been apparent from the get go.

kelukelugames 12y ago
People who are wealthy or extremely good looking have more options than us. If I were rich enough to realistically date young models then it might not be plain weird anymore. Look at Patrick Stewart. How many 70 year olds would marry a woman in their 30s if they actually could?
- eru 12y ago
  What do you mean by, `than us'? Confront it, people working in the software industry are generally wealthier than the average Joe. We do have more options. (Of course, there's always a bigger fish.)
  - littletimmy 12y ago
    The gap between billionaires and the average software engineer is so large that it makes any such "confrontation" meaningless.
  - kelukelugames 12y ago
    lots of devs make more than 200k a year, which is way higher than average. But wealthy people own yachts and rent villas in Europe.
  - ericschmidt 12y ago
    >average Joe I see what u did there
Padding 12y ago
> such an obvious power imbalance you're implying that love is based on rational thought in the first place
yummyfajitas 12y ago
I'm 33 and I can count on one hand the number of 26+ women I've dated in the past year (they all turned out to be married - perils of dating in India). The vast majority have been in college, the rest on their first job. None of them have gone crazy like in this story and this outcome is hardly apparent. Most are nice women that I'm still friends with. Maybe it's more common in the American college scene - there certainly seems to be a moral panic going on there. If you take a lesson from this, it's probably closer to "avoid American women" than "avoid younger women". As for whether it's "weird", it depends on how you look at things. A lot of folks are fairly restrictive in the categories of people they interact with - I know several people who can only deal with very intellectual sorts, for example. E.g., they'd never date an anti-intellectual type (religious, feminist, etc), an unintellectual woman who seeks to enjoy life, a woman of a different socioeconomic background or even a woman at a different stage of life. I don't view things so restrictively so I can enjoy the company of all sorts of people. Then again I'm also pretty weird so for me being super restrictive might simply result in being forever alone.

by aliston 12y ago

kelukelugames 12y ago

People who are wealthy or extremely good looking have more options than us. If I were rich enough to realistically date young models then it might not be plain weird anymore. Look at Patrick Stewart. How many 70 year olds would marry a woman in their 30s if they actually could?

eru 12y ago
What do you mean by, `than us'? Confront it, people working in the software industry are generally wealthier than the average Joe. We do have more options. (Of course, there's always a bigger fish.)
- littletimmy 12y ago
  The gap between billionaires and the average software engineer is so large that it makes any such "confrontation" meaningless.
- kelukelugames 12y ago
  lots of devs make more than 200k a year, which is way higher than average. But wealthy people own yachts and rent villas in Europe.
- ericschmidt 12y ago
  >average Joe I see what u did there

Padding 12y ago

> such an obvious power imbalance you're implying that love is based on rational thought in the first place

yummyfajitas 12y ago

I'm 33 and I can count on one hand the number of 26+ women I've dated in the past year (they all turned out to be married - perils of dating in India). The vast majority have been in college, the rest on their first job. None of them have gone crazy like in this story and this outcome is hardly apparent. Most are nice women that I'm still friends with. Maybe it's more common in the American college scene - there certainly seems to be a moral panic going on there. If you take a lesson from this, it's probably closer to "avoid American women" than "avoid younger women". As for whether it's "weird", it depends on how you look at things. A lot of folks are fairly restrictive in the categories of people they interact with - I know several people who can only deal with very intellectual sorts, for example. E.g., they'd never date an anti-intellectual type (religious, feminist, etc), an unintellectual woman who seeks to enjoy life, a woman of a different socioeconomic background or even a woman at a different stage of life. I don't view things so restrictively so I can enjoy the company of all sorts of people. Then again I'm also pretty weird so for me being super restrictive might simply result in being forever alone.