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> and consider myself at least average looking There's your problem. Many men on various online forums have compared their response rates when using a photo of

by freyr 12y ago

> and consider myself at least average looking There's your problem. Many men on various online forums have compared their response rates when using a photo of an average looking man (or even above average looking man) and when using a photo of a very attractive man. The average man gets almost no matches, and the attractive man gets nearly all matches -- and, apparently, a surprising number of invitations for casual sex. It seems to be a case of the Pareto principle, with 20% of men claiming 80% of the rewards, though the numbers might be closer to 5% and 95%. I'd assume this is a consequence of skewed supply and demand, where most men are happy to match with anyone and therefore swipe right frequently, and women receive many potential matches and can afford to be selective. I suspect this plays out in the dating scene as well (e.g., a small percentage of men sleep with a disproportionately large percentage of women). But the situation seems even more skewed on Tinder, where all emphasis is on physical appearance.

zend3v 12y ago
Speaking from the point of view of an average guy, my immediate thought is: Life is a cruel mistress. I tried Tinder when I moved to a new city and didn't know anyone and I failed dismally. I have since given up on it and deleted it and to be frank, I am happier now I don't concern myself with trying to hook up or meet females. Harsh but true.
JDiculous 12y ago
Yeah, maybe it's just the inevitable endpoint of online dating for any man who's merely average-looking (yet has high standards). Looks like us average-looking men have to go back to the old-school way of meeting women.
hagan_das 12y ago
>I suspect this plays out in the dating scene as well (e.g., a small percentage of men sleep with a disproportionately large percentage of women) I've seen studies that say 20% of men get the vast majority of women and sex.
- boyaka 12y ago
  Not a study, but it has certainly been mentioned before. Here's a relevant discussion (and YC alternative to Tinder) where the same topic is discussed (ctrl-F tinder). https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8454405 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8454405

by freyr 12y ago

zend3v 12y ago

Speaking from the point of view of an average guy, my immediate thought is: Life is a cruel mistress. I tried Tinder when I moved to a new city and didn't know anyone and I failed dismally. I have since given up on it and deleted it and to be frank, I am happier now I don't concern myself with trying to hook up or meet females. Harsh but true.

JDiculous 12y ago

Yeah, maybe it's just the inevitable endpoint of online dating for any man who's merely average-looking (yet has high standards). Looks like us average-looking men have to go back to the old-school way of meeting women.

hagan_das 12y ago

>I suspect this plays out in the dating scene as well (e.g., a small percentage of men sleep with a disproportionately large percentage of women) I've seen studies that say 20% of men get the vast majority of women and sex.

boyaka 12y ago
Not a study, but it has certainly been mentioned before. Here's a relevant discussion (and YC alternative to Tinder) where the same topic is discussed (ctrl-F tinder). https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8454405 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8454405