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> The standard perception is that women are scarce and men are dime-a-dozen. > As long as you fall within that schema and pursue your partners in a way that co
by estefan 12y ago
> The standard perception is that women are scarce and men are dime-a-dozen.
> As long as you fall within that schema and pursue your partners in a way that confirms their social expectations, you're fine.
I've never read such nonsense. This is straight out of the loser's playbook. People who think like this don't know their own value.
I know women who complain about not being able to find any proper men, so a decent guy is just as scarce (in Europe too).
If you actually come across as a discerning guy women have way more respect for you. It challenges them because it shows that the usual dynamic isn't in play and their usual tricks won't work. As a result they become more interested because you're different (and probably confident as well since you don't think like a loser who can only get what he's given).
- mahyarm 12y agoA lot of readers here come from the SF Bay Area, where single men who have their life together are being imported by the boat full, while single women are not. It creates a supply/demand imbalance and it does make dating more work here. Other places might not have that problem. Dating was definitely more work in SF for me than my hometown.
- withdavidli 12y agoI keep hearing the stats are switched in NYC and even hear from women (and dating articles) that the roles are switched more often because there are less guys than women. Don't like the comment about discerning and knowing that their "usual tricks won't work". Don't be with those women, don't be with those those men. If you're looking for an actual partner instead of having a one nighter I would advise not being with people that play these games. If they're playing tricks with this aspect of their life, how are they going to act in more critical situations?