I'm not an MRA. I don't like the Reddit anti-feminism scene. I don't hate feminism, but I strongly oppose a lot of the ideas it comprises. It's an incoherent me

I'm not an MRA. I don't like the Reddit anti-feminism scene. I don't hate feminism, but I strongly oppose a lot of the ideas it comprises. It's an incoherent mess, a circular, self-defending hall of mirrors that shames people for not caring more about ethnicity and more about gender than they do now, when I think we should be trying to care less about those things. Why isn't it rape when a woman has sex with a man too drunk to give consent? Because men can't be the victims of rape. Why not? Because it's not really rape unless it's done by men to women as a way of maintaining a rigid hierarchy of domination. Why isn't it female privilege when women aren't required to sign up for the draft, or can comfort a stranger's young child, or are one tenth as likely to be incarcerated, or enjoy any of a thousand other undeserved advantages conferred by society? Because, by definition, those advantages are all benign sexism. Anything that appears at first glance to your ignorant eyes to be female privilege is actually benign sexism, and the fact that you thought it might be female privilege is just more evidence of how deeply entrenched the patriarchy is. Why isn't it racism when someone makes blanket statements about all white people? Because racism isn't just discrimination on the basis of race, it's discrimination on the basis of race by members of a relatively privileged class against members of a relatively less privileged class. And how do we know what the classes are, and their levels of privilege? Well, feminists will be glad to tell you. But the criteria for deciding may never be revealed, and they certainly wouldn't be open for debate. If feminists make statements about, e.g., "men", and you are a man, and the statement is clearly not true in your case, and not true of your dad, or your granddad, or any of your male friends or male coworkers, you would be wrong to be upset, because they obviously weren't talking about you, or them. If you told them that their machine gun seemed to be hitting 90% innocent bystanders, that would be an attempt at derailing. I'm being a little snarky, and I really don't like that. I want to be positive and not add to the noise. But in this case I think it's important to try to express how infuriating it is to come in contact with this stuff. It's toxic waste. It's a mental virus. Needless to say, everything I've said here is invalid, because I'm a cis white male. It's irrelevant how difficult my life has been. I'm still privileged, and one of the best things I could do would be to shut up [1]. [1] http://www.blackgirldangerous.org/2014/02/4-ways-push-back-privilege/ http://www.blackgirldangerous.org/2014/02/4-ways-push-back-p...