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Venting is called venting for a reason. There is no "secret sauce" to stopping, but there do exist plenty of techniques for stress management that aren't venti

Venting is called venting for a reason. There is no "secret sauce" to stopping, but there do exist plenty of techniques for stress management that aren't venting. "Simply stop complaining" can even be a more dangerous coping mechanism than unrestrained venting. Edit: Maybe I wasn't very clear - I'm not saying venting is a good idea, I'm fairly sure it's considered maladaptive coping (but don't care to look that up this early in the morning). I'm trying to express that it's still a coping mechanism and "simply stop complaining" is wholly inadequacy advice to someone who doesn't have a strong coping strategy in their life.

mankyd 12y ago
This website doesn't deny that. They're merely asking you to try under-doing it instead of over-doing it: > Complaining is great. We all need to vent from time to time. But many of us also overdo it. Sometimes. In this month, you can see life from a more positive side – and learn about yourself, one complaint at a time.
- forgottenpass 12y ago
  This website doesn't deny that. They're merely asking you to try under-doing it instead of over-doing it: The website is an exercise of "everything in moderate" pablum. It doesn't say that because it doesn't actually say anything. It appears the author wants to temper their own reactions to stress - which is great - but has extrapolated from themselves to everybody.
marcandre 12y ago
[citation needed]. It is a myth that one need or even should "let go" of their negative emotions. Instead, that reinforces the propensity to feel that emotion more strongly the next time. Rad "Emotional intelligence" (1st chapter IIRC) by Goleman for a better explanation and scientific references.
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munificent 12y ago
> Venting is called venting for a reason. Yes, it's comes from something called the "hydraulic theory of emotions". The idea is that we have a fixed amount of emotion "stuff" and if we don't let it out, it gets "bottled up" and we keep experiencing it. My understanding is that psychological research hasn't found any evidence that this model is true and in fact most studies I've seen show evidence of the oppposite: that letting negative emotions "out" actually reinforces them. A more intuitive counter-argument is that no one seems to positive a hydraulic theory of positive emotions. You don't hear anyone saying, "Don't share your joy or you won't have any left!"

mankyd 12y ago

This website doesn't deny that. They're merely asking you to try under-doing it instead of over-doing it: > Complaining is great. We all need to vent from time to time. But many of us also overdo it. Sometimes. In this month, you can see life from a more positive side – and learn about yourself, one complaint at a time.

forgottenpass 12y ago
This website doesn't deny that. They're merely asking you to try under-doing it instead of over-doing it: The website is an exercise of "everything in moderate" pablum. It doesn't say that because it doesn't actually say anything. It appears the author wants to temper their own reactions to stress - which is great - but has extrapolated from themselves to everybody.

marcandre 12y ago

[citation needed]. It is a myth that one need or even should "let go" of their negative emotions. Instead, that reinforces the propensity to feel that emotion more strongly the next time. Rad "Emotional intelligence" (1st chapter IIRC) by Goleman for a better explanation and scientific references.

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munificent 12y ago

> Venting is called venting for a reason. Yes, it's comes from something called the "hydraulic theory of emotions". The idea is that we have a fixed amount of emotion "stuff" and if we don't let it out, it gets "bottled up" and we keep experiencing it. My understanding is that psychological research hasn't found any evidence that this model is true and in fact most studies I've seen show evidence of the oppposite: that letting negative emotions "out" actually reinforces them. A more intuitive counter-argument is that no one seems to positive a hydraulic theory of positive emotions. You don't hear anyone saying, "Don't share your joy or you won't have any left!"