Not sure where you are in the world, or where you are in life, but if you are looking for a secular answer to your dilemma, I would recommend looking into profe

Not sure where you are in the world, or where you are in life, but if you are looking for a secular answer to your dilemma, I would recommend looking into professional therapy sessions. While venting to others is a relief valve for life, working with someone who can help you restructure your thoughts and emotions so that that level of tension never arises is truly invaluable. I've found that working things out in private often then helps one to better handle group situations, such that you can get the camaraderie or acceptance feeling you truly crave out of those public interactions.