I grew up with no idea how much my parents made and they often sent very conflicting messages about how much they had or how much we were able to spend, giving

I grew up with no idea how much my parents made and they often sent very conflicting messages about how much they had or how much we were able to spend, giving me money freely one minute and then screaming at me for being selfish about money the next. I never did have a clear picture and probably never will, after a while I didn't care. If I got something I got it, if I didn't then I didn't. Instead of money being used as something I could earn respect with or be trusted with, they used it to control me and get me to do things whenever they wanted. Now I am older and they desperately beg me to know about my finances. I don't answer and I plan on never giving them the slightest clue. There is a complete lack of mutual respect and this is something I WILL NOT screw up with my kids if I ever have any.