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> I can't think of a single argument as to why you would want to hide this valuable learning experience from your kids. For me, the top ones to bubble up are
by sdrothrock 12y ago
> I can't think of a single argument as to why you would want to hide this valuable learning experience from your kids.
For me, the top ones to bubble up are
1. Shame
2. Embarrassment
3. Trying to shield children from difficulties
- cortesoft 12y agoFair enough, I guess I could have imagined arguments... I just don't feel they are very good ones. Your kids are your family, they are going to pick up on any shame and embarrassment you feel, and hiding the details isn't going to make them not see that in you. Explaining the actual situation might actually make them feel better, rather than their own guesses as to why their parents are ashamed and embarrassed. Same with shielding your children from difficulties; they are going to sense things, and their imagination will be worse than the reality. Tell them your problems, but do so in a way that conveys your confidence that you can overcome them. You are teaching them about life, which is really just a series of difficulties that you overcome.
- ibebrett 12y agoNot sure I agree. When I was a child I knew my family was struggling, but had I actually been burdened with knowing how far behind we were on paying for housing etc I might have had a nervous break down. There is some information that may be to heavy for a kid
- err4nt 12y agoI thank my parents for shielding me from the dollars we didnt have. Only know looking back do I realize how tight times must have been. Sharing that yoke with the children would have hurt all of us a little.
- cortesoft 12y agoYeah, I guess I wasn't thinking about people who are really struggling. There might be a point where it is bad enough that it would be too heavy for a kid.